The one word that changed my Holidays
My years of yoga and meditation studies have taught me the importance of gratitude, but bringing it into everyday life can be a challenge. What's easy on the mat or in quiet meditation can be a rough ride when out in the concrete jungle and cacophony of wants, needs, negotiation and expectations.
The last few weeks have been a huge personal challenge, and I've found myself asking why life continued to throw me curveballs, side jabs, forehead slaps, stone walls and speed humps, as I moved like molasses through quick sand in my desires to move forward with life. For no matter how many steps forward, they were retraced, over and over, and I found myself getting mired in the frustration and futility of making the big changes I knew needed to be made.
So in a moment of complete exhausted surrender, I changed my attitude simply to "thanks". Literally, every time I had a conversation, a retail purchase, navigating a topic I knew nothing about (hello Domain transfer) or trying to resolve an issue, I made the decision to simply come from a place of gratitude:
"Thanks for taking my call"
"Thanks for taking the time"
"Thanks for looking into this"
"Thanks for helping me resolve this"
"Thanks this is not my expertise"
"Thanks for making space for me"
Sometimes I had to force myself to find the gratitude, other times it was sincere from the outset, but at every turn, turning toward gratitude not only changed how I viewed the situation, but also helped the other person engage, relax, and want to help. In some cases, I swear I could hear them smile down the customer service chatline.
Holidays are times when gratitude is more within reach than normal, so take the moment, make the eye contact and sincerely say thanks. I'm yet to meet someone who didn't appreciate it.